Have your desires, but don’t get involved. See the example Of the spider who weaves a web, but is never caught in it. She is aloof and is herself never killed in the web. An ant likes syrup, but when she goes into it she dies. The ant is killed by her own desires. Don’t be like the ant, be like the spider who is never caught in her own web. Live in the world, but be like a boat in the water. The boat is in the water, but it is not drowned. Live in the world, but don’t get drowned in it.